It’s hard to believe – maybe you feel as if you’re living in a bad dream – but you’ve got to accept it – she’s gone! But when you ask yourself the question about ‘how to get my ex girlfriend back’; you’re not getting a lot of answers. And maybe the answers you are getting are not the right ones. This is one of those times when you can mess up badly.
You may be feeling completely cut up – or mad – or confused – or a painful mixture of all these. And feeling like this can easily lead to you making some very bad moves.
Will your ex wife or girlfriend ever want to be with you again?
Are you wondering if she ever thinks about you? Or do you hope she still dreams about you a little, even though she’s walked out of your life?
The truth is that you CAN find out how to get my ex girlfriend back, and your chances of being successful are probably better than you think. You CAN fix a relationship. Every day, lots of people get back together after a breakup, because they found a way to solve their relationship problems and build a better future together.
And in one part of her mind your girlfriend will find herself doubting her decision. Everybody has doubts after a breakup, going back over the past and thinking about what might have been. But another part of her will be telling her she has to move on.
Right now she could be sat at home crying over the breakup, wondering if she did the right thing. Or she could be out with her friends, either talking over her problems with them and asking them for advice, or enjoying a girls’ night out meeting new men.
Or she could be out there dating already, seeing different men every night.
Suppose she does still fantasise about getting back together with you? How could you find out?
What was the real reason she broke things off with you in the first place? And what can you do that will make her want to come back?
Right now, she is probably lying to you (and to herself) about what she really wants. When people do this, they can go to great lengths to convince themselves of what they want to believe. And at this moment your girlfriend believes that she doesn’t want to be with you any more. So how far is she willing to go to prove it to herself?
Worst case scenario
She could start dating and maybe even sleeping with other men. After all, that’s got to be the most convincing way there is to prove that she’s over you. She’s beautiful, desirable and sexy. How
hard can it be for her to find other men keen to have sex with her?
When a relationship they valued and treasured has gone wrong, women often seek validation by proving that they can attract another man, or men. Often these rebound relationships don’t last, but you still have to face the thought of her seeing other men – and not being sure how physical they getting with each other. And the thought is probably driving you crazy.
You’ve tried calling her and promising that everything will be different this time. You’ve tried texting and emailing with reasons why she should give you another chance. You’ve tried sending her flowers and gifts. But she won’t listen or even talk to you, even though you thought words were the way to move a woman. But none of it’s working.
And the reason for that is that it’s the wrong approach. You need to do two things right now: remind her why she fell in love with you, and rekindle the emotions she used to feel, so that she will want to get you back. It’s like hitting the reset button on your relationship and starting again.
Find the Right Approach
If you’ve been begging and pleading or just trying to persuade her to come back, then you have been destroying the vital chemistry that attracted her to you. You are showing her how much control she has over you, and that extinguishes the sexual charge for her – because you are not behaving like a man.
You’ve probably heard that power is great aphrodisiac. And when a man gives up his power to a woman, he removes the sexual tension between them. Women are drawn to men who lead. So when you become a follower instead, you are on a one-way ticket to the Friend Zone.
It’s essential that you understand how a woman’s erotic brain is wired. It’s quite different from a man’s, which men often fail to understand. Guys respond to images and films of sexy, naked women, but women are not turned on that much by visual stimuli. Women are attracted to the qualities of masculinity that provide and protect. That means men who lead and who are in control of their lives, and men who make them feel secure.
When you tell her how much you love her, or how good you could be together, or how you were made for each other; you are appealing to her logical brain, which is why you are failing to hit the mark. Women don’t make romantic decisions based on their logical brain. Instead you need to bypass logic and appeal to her primal, animal brain, which is where she makes her romantic, emotional decisions.
Rationally she has decided that you two are finished. And as long as you keep appealing to her rational brain, her instinct is to defend her choice and reinforce her decision to finish with you.
Reconnect With Her
But if you can find the way to bypass this reflex, you can dissolve all her arguments and have her thinking only of how much she wants to be with you again. All you need is a ‘road map’ of the way to make this happen.
There are 3 things threatening your chances of getting your girlfriend back right now. The most important is your ability to reconnect with her, especially if she is insisting that you stay away from her and that she never wants to see you again. The others are the danger of finding yourself relegated permanently to the Friend Zone – and other men.
It’s important to have a strategy, to make a plan. A plan will give you something to focus on, so that you can stop yourself making any more mistakes. It will put you back in control of your life.
Have a good look at all the info on this blog to give you more insights into women and the reasons why they leave relationships. And have a look at the strategies in the eBook Store, as they will help you find out how to get my ex girlfriend back.
How to Get My Ex Girlfriend Back
Try to keep a cool head, instead of getting mad at her for leaving, or mad with yourself for messing up and losing the best girl you’ll ever have. Remember that she’s probably feeling pretty mad at you too right now. And if she is, it’s actually a good sign – much better, for instance, than just shrugging her shoulders and wishing you luck.
Being angry is a sign that she still has strong feelings for you. In fact, it’s one of several signs that you stand a good chance of getting her back. Find out what the other good signs are here.
Devise a strategy, make a plan; then get out there and follow it! Just make sure you take action!